All Around Annoyed.

This morning I waited at the doctorʻs office for over an hour before I was brought back. then it too another 45 mins to see the doctor. That annoys me.

What has also set me ablaze this morning is the inability people have to recognize others opinions. I hear so much talk about "free speech" yet when your opinion is not the "popular" one or the PC one or the majorityʻs people demonize you, call for apologies and ask for laws to be changed to ban your opinion.

Because someone is seemingly ignorant to the majority does not mean that they are no longer entitled to free speech.

Because someone is insensitive does not mean that they are not entitled to free speech.

Because someone thinks differently than you do, does NOT mean then are not entitled to free speech.

Does it suck when people use derogatory terms towards someone you care about? Sure it does, but that is not harassment nor is it bullying. And it should not be illegal. And people should not be persecuted for their opinions. Is that NOT what Free Speech is about?

If an author writes a book on a subject you do not like or find offensive; donʻt buy the book.

If a politician is on the other-side of abortion than you; donʻt vote for them.

If an actor is on the opposing side of same-sex marriage; donʻt watch their movies.

What you should do however is let them have their opinion. Simply saying you disagree with that opinion is enough! Because just like you, the people on the other-side-of-the-coin are entitled to safely express their opinions!

And people- SUCK IT UP! Stop whining and crying about the little stuff because people stop listening. We are turning into a Nation that "Cries Wolf" ALL DAY LONG!!! Focus on the big picture.

Maybe Not EVERYDAY...

Okay, I am not having much luck with the EVERYDAY blogging but I am trying to get better:) Some days I donʻt blog because I cannot seem to find the time and other days it is because I find it difficult to find anything night to say so I say nothing at all. Today I donʻt have much nice to say but I do feel like I would like to get it out.

I have lived a few places throughout my life. As a child I went from NJ to VA to SC back to NJ then to NY and back to NJ where I stayed from the age of about 5 until I was 18. So the best years of my childhood were spent in NJ, mostly in Belmar, with a great group of friends that will forever be a "family" to me. At 18 I moved to FL then back to NJ then it was off to Washington,DC @ 20. Since then I have lived in at a few different addresses in DC then with kids came the move out to the VA suburbs. My last move was 7 years ago making this by far the longest I have been at the same place since NJ. The experience here has been VERY different from the one I had in NJ and not in a positive way.

As I mentioned, Belmar, New Jersey will always be "home" to me. Sure, the town has changed and going back I could never find what was once there. Most of the families that had been there for generations are gone. The kids I grew up with have like me moved out of town or out of the state for work or never came home after college. Their parents have retired out of state or have passed away. Nevertheless, that is still home, they are still "home". They are the folks you run into and you can pick up a conversation right where you left it 20 years ago. They are the people the "get" your sarcasm in print:) The people that are always there to love & support you.

Now I have been here in VA, in my neighborhood, in my house for 7yrs, about half the time I spent in NJ. And at this point, 7 yrs into it I donʻt think I have made any of the connections I had in NJ. In 7 years I have been part of more "cliques" or clubs or groups of "friends" then I could imagine existed. It is not just this way for me but also for my kids & husband. It is soooooo strange. I wonder how the people here sit at the same pool with one another ALL summer but never talk. Kids the same age & often in the same class at school donʻt play together...Hell, they donʻt even say HELLO! Imagine with me if you will sitting on 8th Ave beach with our mothers and just walking by without at least saying hello, with our parents just ignoring one another. Itʻs just CRAZY! Itʻs sad.

I love my NJ Family. I want to love a VA family. Hell I would be happy not to have a revolving door of "friends" based on what you can "do" for them. Why is the common group of being parents of children the same age & living in the same neighborhood no longer enough to be polite to one another?

I hope that others of you have had better experiences wherever you are living now.

Again Itʻs Time To Reorganize

I know, it has been FOREVER! I have sat here so many times and started so many posts but nothing has been published in MONTHS! Blogging has kinda become like my house...it is so far gone I donʻt know where to start:) Tonight I am starting here & tomorrow with the house!

About a month ago I had to have surgery on my foot & EVERYTHING in my life has been neglected nothing more so than my house. It is so messy. Clutter everywhere! A dining room with no table that can be seen. A bedroom with clothes piled around it but nothing but away. Floors that need to be mopped. Bathrooms that need a REAL scrubbing. And the biggest problem...PAPER! There is sooooo much paper around my house I have no idea how to start to get rid of it! I could not find an important paper it I needed to. My poor baby came home from school today upset because I have not returned ANY of the THREE permission slips she has brought home for her field trip next week. I found that paper today- The due date NO LATE THAN 2/17, Clearly that did NOT happen.

Now for my dilemma I HATE to throw my kids "work" away but I am not really sure how to keep it. Our house is not big, a modest 1600sqft ranch and with 5 humans, 2 dogs & some fish thatʻs not a whole lot of room so I have to "make" space. It is time to put some money into storage & home beautification:) Where to start, where to start???? I would take before pictures for yʻall but I would have to clean up alittle before I could invite you in;-) But maybe I will be able to post the after pictures here.

I am signing off to browse storage solutions. Hereʻs hoping I can get my ass in gear & reorganize my life to include de-cluttering & blogging-

July 6th?

It is hard to believe that I have not blogged since July 6th! I know that it is NOT because I have nothing to say:) I have not been putting in the time to blog and my writing in other areas is suffering because of it. Blogging everyday, even when it was about "nothing" kept my mind moving in a writing way. Without it I am struggling to put school papers together and even simple emails. I think it is time to throw blogging back on the "to do" list.

So, today is Day 1 and this is my post.

Hiding? Me?

Yes, I have been hiding from my blog, I started feeling uncomfortable putting my "junk" out in the world. Lucky for all of you I have come to these conclusions 1) Blogging really helps me release some of the junk in my head 2) I like when people read it and 3) my life is just to dang interesting to deprive y'all any longer:) So, I will just jump back in like I never left. Life is BUSY around here. Baseball games, softball games 4th grade, 3rd grade, 1st grade, vacations including the husbands current one at the local hospital. Life is busy. Life is busy but I am calm. The past several weeks as brought an amazing sense of calm to my life. Internal peace. I have not mentioned it much for fear of jinxing it I guess, but it seems to be sticking around! I hope this means that I have found what I have been looking for...balance. Surely with all I have going on this week will be the test!

Testing.

I am trying to disconnect my blog from my facebook page, but I am not having much luck. Iʻm finding that I am not finding blogging as freeing as I did before I knew who was reading it. So, here I am trying to see if I have disconnected:)

Maybe Itʻs Working

For months I have been actively searching for ways to cope with the stress in my life. Yeah, Iʻm the kinda person that stresses about EVERYTHING! You name it, I stress over it. It is crazy and unhealthy, but yesterday was a great test for my stress-reduction methods and it seems to be working.

Yesterday I had so many of my regular stressors thrown at me and I was fine. I never had an anxiety attack, didnʻt loose a bit of sleep and never even got angry. I easily processed all the information I was given and then let-it-go. It was an amazing feeling. Normally, I would have "talked" this all to death and over analyzed it. I would have kept the husband up half the night listening to me work through it all, but instead I was asleep by 10 and slept peacefully through until 7am:)

I am not sure if this is the wave of the future, but I hope so. It was/is an incredible feeling to recognize, process and release stress from my life. Committed meditation & Tia-Chi maybe the answer for me!

Today is gonna be a good day...even if I have to see the meanest doctor ever:)