The Perfect Family

In my mind the "perfect family" would be a mix of early colonial American Housing(everyone stuffed into a one room log cabin), the 1950ʻs "Leave It To Beaver" (Dadʻs commute was 10mins and mom had fresh cookies every afternoon) & all the technologies American family can enjoy today. I wish my extended family all lived in the same town and that we had family dinners every Sunday after church. Holidays would last days and include aunts, uncles, cousins, in-laws and anyone else that needed a place to go. Thatʻs NOT my family. To start, I live 30 miles from my nearest relative & he is a second cousin that I see more often when I travel 5 hours back to NJ than I do here. The remaining majority of my family is spread across the Eastern Seaboard. Five hours one way and fifteen the other but there are those few that "broke away" and flowed West. Most of my family I go years without seeing, you know the wedding & funeral crowd, that is our relationship now. This is not what I imagined my family to look like; me, my husband and children living hundreds of miles from our parents and siblings. With little to no relationship with the cousins I grew up with as best-friends and hardly knowing my nieces & nephews, but that is what I have. As I move from Thanksgiving that was spent at home, just the five of us, I hope that Christmas and the coming year will find me closer to this "Perfect Family" I think I want:)

Happy for the Weekend

I may be the only person that willingly rises early on Saturday & Sunday morning. 6:30am, I am up letting the dogs out, calling my mom, cleaning up and enjoying the quiet in the house. Sure I have the house to myself ALL week from 845-330, but itʻs just not the same. During the week I have to get up, out of bed and TRY to get three grouchy monsters showered & out the door. Not on the weekends. On the weekends I get to enjoy a slow morning, quiet time with my mom and I have the added bonus of the monsters waking when THEY want and being happy most of the day! Maybe that is what makes weekends so good for me, time spent with a HAPPY Family, MY happy family. My well rested, un-rushed family. Although I am not sure how I married a night owl, had three kids and I am the ONLY morning person in the family:) Most nights now I am in bed asleep before ALL of them! Itʻs over now, I here a monster stirring...It is 915 so I guess I cannot be too disappointed:)

Who Are My "People"

This morning I was texting with my mom and we starting talking about how few "people" we we have in our lives. What I noticed is that neither of us have many "people" anymore. The other thing I noticed is that the past 6 months has really shed a light on what kind of "people" I want in my life and what to give my time to. Because Time is the one thing you can never get back, I donʻt want to waste a single moment on people that donʻt deserve it. Mortality is a scary thought, but a much needed one every so often. When it gives you that "Why am I doing this" thought, it is time to take a look. So I did. Thank You to MY "People"!

Itʻs Not Personal-

What does that even mean? Tell me then how one is to take rude, mean ,self-involved people if not personal? As a person that has bad days and mood swings, I know I can take things out on the wrong person, but I still would NOT tell them not to take it personally. You should take it personally. Take it personally that someone either thinks so much of you that you are a safe place for them to let-off-steam or that they think so LITTLE of you that treating you like total and complete CRAP makes them feel like a bigger person. Take it either way, but either way it is personal.

And Today With the Real Housewives of AH...

Explain to me how people that have not spoken to you for months, except to put you down or ask you for something have the nerve to sit with you for 2 hours as if youʻre bffs? Well, sometimes we were bffs & other times it was as if we were meeting for the very first time. Itʻs interesting when these are people that you spent day after day with for some time. So, you sit there wondering when you should speak and what you should speak to. Do you make small-talk? Do you just go straight to business? Such decisions. I decided to keep to business without sarcasm, except when the options were between sarcasm & slapping:) I left the meeting with more questions than answers, tighter shoulders, a sore back and a headache. I guess thatʻs progress, there were no tears and the anger was now just stress. When it was over I picked the monsters up & was almost happy to hear them fight on the way home, all the things that cam out of theirs mouths were things I had wished I could have said at my meeting. Things like "Youʻre a stupid head" and "I hate you" and my favorite "DONʻT EVER TALK TO ME AGAIN" to be a kid again. Hell, who am I kidding I would call my brother or sister up right now and do the same thing after a bad day! One of the best gifts my parents ever gave me, my brother & sister. Built in punching-bags for life!LOL!

Mother's Day

Today was Mother's Day. I spent mine with the monsters & my Hunna. It was a quiet day. We didn't do anything special. There was some fighting amongst the monsters. Killian gave me extra hugs. Declan asked what he could do to help me all day & Maggie read to me. It was a nice day.

It does seem that the week to follow will bring more drama for the reality show I now live in "The Real Housewives of AH" & let me tell you that the OC, NY & NJ have nothing on this cast. This is the "Bible Belt" version wherein the majority of the cast claim to be Great Christians while lying, cheating, gossiping and bullying yet they all head to mass every week:) It is quite an adventure. I think I will start sharing the cast & story lines with all of you. It is wild & so unbelievable! I'll have to give some thought to this:)

Back to the gym tomorrow! My foot is feeling better. I'm happy about that.

Iʻm a Nobody...

I think Emily Dickinson said it best in her poem "Iʻm a nobody, who are you?" I am a NOBODY to most of the worldʻs 7B people and thatʻs okay with me! The only people I want to be a "somebody" to are the ones that call me Mom, wife, daughter, sister, aunt or friend. "Friend" that is a tricky one. For this post I will use this definition: A person whom one knows, likes, and trusts. To be called a friend one should possess ALL three of these qualities, not just 1 or 2 BUT ALL 3! And when a "friend" possess all three of those qualities are they someone worthy & willing to have me as a somebody in their life. Still there are others that I am a "nobody" to that claim to know who I am and what I feel. People that have built an entire persona for a "nobody" in their world. How does that happen? Why does it happen? Do people have a need to generate a "somebody" for their own security? Do they do it for greed? fame? self-worth? I donʻt think I understand why some people need a "somebody" that isnʻt real, that they have created. A "somebody" that they seem determine to build-up just for the chance to tear them down and watch them crumble. For a "nobody" here and there, they want so much to be a "somebody" that they will compromise themselves & those in their life to be a "somebody" until one day they wake up a realize they have NOBODY! Not this "nobody" I have my somebodies and plan to keep them & myself happily in our bog:)