You know that POINT in a relationship when things change? It happens in every relationship(well, if you're me:), the point when you decide to take a step to the other side. I love this place in a relationship! It's like a "first kiss", it is fun and exciting and new. It can be scary to take the step, and sometimes you get hurt, but not taking it would be so much worse.
In the past few months I have been lucky enough to have many people come and go from my life. Some of those have been positive and some negative, but I would not change a single one. In the past few weeks, I have come to a crossroad in several of me relationship's that I now need to decide if I want a friendship or just continue as acquaintances. What to do????
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
Monday, April 20, 2009
Time To Rant!
There are a few things that are really annoying me as of late-
-I will start with the RAIN! I am so sick of it! We get 2 nice days, followed by days and days of COLD RAIN! And it is not a small amount of rain, no it is lots of rain that never drys up because the rain keeps coming back!
-Moving on...explain to me why I had to sit at a meeting for 45min today to entirely recap a 2 hour meeting I had with the same people a week ago! And all this was to get my child the services she is entitled to by the county. Services that have taken 8 months to "officially" qualify her for and had no less than 5 meetings for, but hey, we got it done today and she can start receiving services for the last 8 weeks of school! And then guess what, we can start all over again in September!!!!
-My baby is feeling a bit under-the-weather which is really not convenient as we leave for vacation in 13 days! I don't understand, I really have been a good person lately, why the bad Karma?
Ya know what, I really could go on all night, so I will go and save more for tomorrow.
-I will start with the RAIN! I am so sick of it! We get 2 nice days, followed by days and days of COLD RAIN! And it is not a small amount of rain, no it is lots of rain that never drys up because the rain keeps coming back!
-Moving on...explain to me why I had to sit at a meeting for 45min today to entirely recap a 2 hour meeting I had with the same people a week ago! And all this was to get my child the services she is entitled to by the county. Services that have taken 8 months to "officially" qualify her for and had no less than 5 meetings for, but hey, we got it done today and she can start receiving services for the last 8 weeks of school! And then guess what, we can start all over again in September!!!!
-My baby is feeling a bit under-the-weather which is really not convenient as we leave for vacation in 13 days! I don't understand, I really have been a good person lately, why the bad Karma?
Ya know what, I really could go on all night, so I will go and save more for tomorrow.
Sunday, April 19, 2009
Annoying...
Why is it that those who teach at the graduate level and above feel it necessary to use every .50 word they can? Why can they not just say what they mean in the clearest, easiest way possible?
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
So Much To Say...
Where should I start? Let me start with Easter. I am not a fan. Not a fan for several reasons. First, I don't believe in Christ so, a holiday celebrating his rising from the dead, a bit hard to get into(my husband is christian and the children are being raised as such, therefore we celebrate). Next, I will move on to the GROSS commercialization of the holiday! Seriously, Christ has risen; now here are some candy and trinkets? And wait because this year we will market more and more for you! Maybe I am missing something here, but I don't get it! Anyway, that is Easter!
I will now move onto to a dear friend of mine. She has a most horrific husband! He is a big, mean, male-chauvinist jerk! My friend is the sweetest, most caring and kind-hearted woman I know. What I find most upsetting is that she is so devoted to her religion and prays for guidance, yet God has yet to show her the way. The way I fear is out-the-door! At some point being abused has to come to an end! The problem I have in this is that one cannot speak ill of the husband without the friend feeling that she either needs to defend his actions or remove you from her life! It is getting worse lately too, now the kids are starting to treat her like he does! I don't understand why she has so little self esteem, I want to shake some sense into her!
Onto me. I am as crazy and unorganized as ever! I live with no rhythm or reason to life. This week is bad with Spring Break and Ben away, there is really no order here:)
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Before I end this bizarre post, I would like to share an encounter I had the other day:
setting: front desk at school me and 5-6 other moms
mom 1: Hey, what are you guys doing for Easter?
me: not much
mom 2: family, you?
mom 1: Going to my Aunt's, but my cousin Sue and her friend Jane will be there and they are expecting.
me: Oh, that's great! Do they know what they are having?
mom 3: Do the kids know?
mom 4: OMG!
mom 2: Have you talked to your kids about it?
me: about what(sometimes I am slow:)?
mom 2: about them being gay
mom 1: no, what would I say? Do your kids know what it means?
mom 2,3, 4: NO!
Me: know what what means?
mom 1: being gay.
me: My kids know that sometimes boys marry boys and girls, girls. and that sometimes kids have 2 moms and or dads, or both.
mom 3: why do they know that?
me: I guess they asked one time so I answered and as they get older they have asked more questions.
mom 2: really, and you answered?
me: Are you guys kidding me?(stares of disbelief) My kids know that families don't come in one shape or size and that all families the way they need to. If that means 2 moms, that's what it means; if it is a mom and dad, that is okay too. Whatever works!
(then I walked away and called my mom is horror!)
Are people really still this ignorant? I guess I know that they are, but I hate to be smacked in the face with it! It bugs me! I am not be up for any parenting awards(well good ones anyway:) but the one thing I can say is that my kids are well-rounded and very accepting of others!
Good Night!
I will now move onto to a dear friend of mine. She has a most horrific husband! He is a big, mean, male-chauvinist jerk! My friend is the sweetest, most caring and kind-hearted woman I know. What I find most upsetting is that she is so devoted to her religion and prays for guidance, yet God has yet to show her the way. The way I fear is out-the-door! At some point being abused has to come to an end! The problem I have in this is that one cannot speak ill of the husband without the friend feeling that she either needs to defend his actions or remove you from her life! It is getting worse lately too, now the kids are starting to treat her like he does! I don't understand why she has so little self esteem, I want to shake some sense into her!
Onto me. I am as crazy and unorganized as ever! I live with no rhythm or reason to life. This week is bad with Spring Break and Ben away, there is really no order here:)
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Before I end this bizarre post, I would like to share an encounter I had the other day:
setting: front desk at school me and 5-6 other moms
mom 1: Hey, what are you guys doing for Easter?
me: not much
mom 2: family, you?
mom 1: Going to my Aunt's, but my cousin Sue and her friend Jane will be there and they are expecting.
me: Oh, that's great! Do they know what they are having?
mom 3: Do the kids know?
mom 4: OMG!
mom 2: Have you talked to your kids about it?
me: about what(sometimes I am slow:)?
mom 2: about them being gay
mom 1: no, what would I say? Do your kids know what it means?
mom 2,3, 4: NO!
Me: know what what means?
mom 1: being gay.
me: My kids know that sometimes boys marry boys and girls, girls. and that sometimes kids have 2 moms and or dads, or both.
mom 3: why do they know that?
me: I guess they asked one time so I answered and as they get older they have asked more questions.
mom 2: really, and you answered?
me: Are you guys kidding me?(stares of disbelief) My kids know that families don't come in one shape or size and that all families the way they need to. If that means 2 moms, that's what it means; if it is a mom and dad, that is okay too. Whatever works!
(then I walked away and called my mom is horror!)
Are people really still this ignorant? I guess I know that they are, but I hate to be smacked in the face with it! It bugs me! I am not be up for any parenting awards(well good ones anyway:) but the one thing I can say is that my kids are well-rounded and very accepting of others!
Good Night!
Know When You Are DONE...
When I had my first baby I lived in Manassas,VA and knew nobody! Nobody at all out there. So, after Declan was born I joined the local MOMS Club. It was great and I learned alot. Some good, most not:) What was good was meeting people and getting out of the house with my babies and being with other people that were at the same point in their lives as I was. Anyway, one of the friends I met there(one of only two I still speak too:) asked me after I had Declan if I was going to have more children. I answered that I wasn't sure and she said that she thought I would have more. I asked her why she thought that and she said that as a Mom you know when you are done. So, I got pregnant with Maggie and I felt done. Maggie was born and I felt done. Now Maggie is 4 and the thought of another, well lets just say I haven't asked Ben to reverse the vasectomy:) I wondered if I was going to feel this way with everyother person I know being pregnant, but I do!
My friend babysits for a mostly delightful 3 month that I hold and carry, cuddle and kiss more than I thought I would, but I feel only joy when I hand her back. My SIL is pregnant and I suppose I will hold the baby a time or two(maybe) but I want no more. I am done. And I know the feeling my friend was talking about. It is a feeling you cannot explain to mother before they have it themselves, but you know it when you have it.
I wish every mother were able to come to the feeling on their own, but I know that for many reasons the number of children on can have often depends on more than desire and for all of you that experience that I am sorry, but for all of you that do, isn't it an incredible feeling?
My friend babysits for a mostly delightful 3 month that I hold and carry, cuddle and kiss more than I thought I would, but I feel only joy when I hand her back. My SIL is pregnant and I suppose I will hold the baby a time or two(maybe) but I want no more. I am done. And I know the feeling my friend was talking about. It is a feeling you cannot explain to mother before they have it themselves, but you know it when you have it.
I wish every mother were able to come to the feeling on their own, but I know that for many reasons the number of children on can have often depends on more than desire and for all of you that experience that I am sorry, but for all of you that do, isn't it an incredible feeling?
Sunday, April 12, 2009
People From New Jersey Are So...
Living in the South, Virginia specifically, I often hear great stereotypes about Jersey Girls(and sometimes boys:)and the are always so negative, I should say they are seen as a negative. Here are a few I hear often,
People from New Jersey ...
are so mean! HELL NO, people from NJ are among the most kind-hearted in the world. I sometimes feel that people misunderstand are willingness to help, but not having FOREVER to hear ever detail 12 times! Just Bottom line it, what can we do to help you? 9 out of 10 times, we'll do it.
are trashy! Um...really? Cutting edge. Problem here is that it is another 3 years before the South gets that it is cool and 2 for the mid-west:)
are all in the mafia and or Italian! Seriously people, lots of us are not even Italian! And the Sopranos was just a drama, not reality TV!
talk fast and funny! Fast, I can give you, why the hell waste time, the days aren't long enough as it is! It goes back to just cut-to-the-chase, say what you need to and move on! As for the funny part, it is not my fault that you don't see the d in WADER, as in I would like a glass of ice wader:) OK, so maybe you have a point on the talking thing- but surely the hand moving while we talk is exaggerated;-)
Maybe I didn't do such a good job dispelling the stereotypes:) But I swear we do have BIG Hearts(and can NEVER say NO) you just need ask...quickly and listen very carefully for the answer so that you understand it:) And whatever you do, please don't go digging through our backyards(or stadium end zones:) you might not like what you find!
Worst of all, I never hear about how funny we are:)
People from New Jersey ...
are so mean! HELL NO, people from NJ are among the most kind-hearted in the world. I sometimes feel that people misunderstand are willingness to help, but not having FOREVER to hear ever detail 12 times! Just Bottom line it, what can we do to help you? 9 out of 10 times, we'll do it.
are trashy! Um...really? Cutting edge. Problem here is that it is another 3 years before the South gets that it is cool and 2 for the mid-west:)
are all in the mafia and or Italian! Seriously people, lots of us are not even Italian! And the Sopranos was just a drama, not reality TV!
talk fast and funny! Fast, I can give you, why the hell waste time, the days aren't long enough as it is! It goes back to just cut-to-the-chase, say what you need to and move on! As for the funny part, it is not my fault that you don't see the d in WADER, as in I would like a glass of ice wader:) OK, so maybe you have a point on the talking thing- but surely the hand moving while we talk is exaggerated;-)
Maybe I didn't do such a good job dispelling the stereotypes:) But I swear we do have BIG Hearts(and can NEVER say NO) you just need ask...quickly and listen very carefully for the answer so that you understand it:) And whatever you do, please don't go digging through our backyards(or stadium end zones:) you might not like what you find!
Worst of all, I never hear about how funny we are:)
Sunday, April 5, 2009
What a Life
Sometimes I get so caught-up in the daily grind that I forget how good life really is. We have had a terrific few days and lots of exciting this on the horizon. I just love Spring! It is the start of my "busy" season with the kids and traveling, but it also the end of my winter-blues! The monsters and I spent Friday entertaining friends, Saturday we had a "Family Fun Day" out to the Shenandoah National Park and the Tokyo Inn and today we attended the Easter Egg Hunt in our community! And it was a perfect day to hunt for eggs! The kids had friends from school to play with and the park was dry and ready for kids! Life has been good! It is amazing how much happier I am when the sun is shining!
Next week is busy too. Ben and I decided not to head to Jersey for Easter, but instead of staying home, he planned an overnight getaway for us! We are excited, the trip includes giraffes we can feed and an indoor swimming pool! I just hope the Easter Bunny finds us:)
After that we tickets to Opening Day for the Washington Nationals, where we will watch President Obama throw-out the first pitch! And the my brother and his gang come to visit.
Life is busy, but oh so fun this time of year. And trips to the beach are just around the corner:)
Next week is busy too. Ben and I decided not to head to Jersey for Easter, but instead of staying home, he planned an overnight getaway for us! We are excited, the trip includes giraffes we can feed and an indoor swimming pool! I just hope the Easter Bunny finds us:)
After that we tickets to Opening Day for the Washington Nationals, where we will watch President Obama throw-out the first pitch! And the my brother and his gang come to visit.
Life is busy, but oh so fun this time of year. And trips to the beach are just around the corner:)
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