So Much To Say...

Where should I start? Let me start with Easter. I am not a fan. Not a fan for several reasons. First, I don't believe in Christ so, a holiday celebrating his rising from the dead, a bit hard to get into(my husband is christian and the children are being raised as such, therefore we celebrate). Next, I will move on to the GROSS commercialization of the holiday! Seriously, Christ has risen; now here are some candy and trinkets? And wait because this year we will market more and more for you! Maybe I am missing something here, but I don't get it! Anyway, that is Easter!


I will now move onto to a dear friend of mine. She has a most horrific husband! He is a big, mean, male-chauvinist jerk! My friend is the sweetest, most caring and kind-hearted woman I know. What I find most upsetting is that she is so devoted to her religion and prays for guidance, yet God has yet to show her the way. The way I fear is out-the-door! At some point being abused has to come to an end! The problem I have in this is that one cannot speak ill of the husband without the friend feeling that she either needs to defend his actions or remove you from her life! It is getting worse lately too, now the kids are starting to treat her like he does! I don't understand why she has so little self esteem, I want to shake some sense into her!


Onto me. I am as crazy and unorganized as ever! I live with no rhythm or reason to life. This week is bad with Spring Break and Ben away, there is really no order here:)
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Before I end this bizarre post, I would like to share an encounter I had the other day:

setting: front desk at school me and 5-6 other moms

mom 1: Hey, what are you guys doing for Easter?

me: not much

mom 2: family, you?

mom 1: Going to my Aunt's, but my cousin Sue and her friend Jane will be there and they are expecting.

me: Oh, that's great! Do they know what they are having?

mom 3: Do the kids know?

mom 4: OMG!

mom 2: Have you talked to your kids about it?

me: about what(sometimes I am slow:)?

mom 2: about them being gay

mom 1: no, what would I say? Do your kids know what it means?

mom 2,3, 4: NO!

Me: know what what means?

mom 1: being gay.

me: My kids know that sometimes boys marry boys and girls, girls. and that sometimes kids have 2 moms and or dads, or both.

mom 3: why do they know that?

me: I guess they asked one time so I answered and as they get older they have asked more questions.

mom 2: really, and you answered?

me: Are you guys kidding me?(stares of disbelief) My kids know that families don't come in one shape or size and that all families the way they need to. If that means 2 moms, that's what it means; if it is a mom and dad, that is okay too. Whatever works!

(then I walked away and called my mom is horror!)

Are people really still this ignorant? I guess I know that they are, but I hate to be smacked in the face with it! It bugs me! I am not be up for any parenting awards(well good ones anyway:) but the one thing I can say is that my kids are well-rounded and very accepting of others!

Good Night!

Know When You Are DONE...

When I had my first baby I lived in Manassas,VA and knew nobody! Nobody at all out there. So, after Declan was born I joined the local MOMS Club. It was great and I learned alot. Some good, most not:) What was good was meeting people and getting out of the house with my babies and being with other people that were at the same point in their lives as I was. Anyway, one of the friends I met there(one of only two I still speak too:) asked me after I had Declan if I was going to have more children. I answered that I wasn't sure and she said that she thought I would have more. I asked her why she thought that and she said that as a Mom you know when you are done. So, I got pregnant with Maggie and I felt done. Maggie was born and I felt done. Now Maggie is 4 and the thought of another, well lets just say I haven't asked Ben to reverse the vasectomy:) I wondered if I was going to feel this way with everyother person I know being pregnant, but I do!


My friend babysits for a mostly delightful 3 month that I hold and carry, cuddle and kiss more than I thought I would, but I feel only joy when I hand her back. My SIL is pregnant and I suppose I will hold the baby a time or two(maybe) but I want no more. I am done. And I know the feeling my friend was talking about. It is a feeling you cannot explain to mother before they have it themselves, but you know it when you have it.


I wish every mother were able to come to the feeling on their own, but I know that for many reasons the number of children on can have often depends on more than desire and for all of you that experience that I am sorry, but for all of you that do, isn't it an incredible feeling?

People From New Jersey Are So...

Living in the South, Virginia specifically, I often hear great stereotypes about Jersey Girls(and sometimes boys:)and the are always so negative, I should say they are seen as a negative. Here are a few I hear often,

People from New Jersey ...

are so mean! HELL NO, people from NJ are among the most kind-hearted in the world. I sometimes feel that people misunderstand are willingness to help, but not having FOREVER to hear ever detail 12 times! Just Bottom line it, what can we do to help you? 9 out of 10 times, we'll do it.

are trashy! Um...really? Cutting edge. Problem here is that it is another 3 years before the South gets that it is cool and 2 for the mid-west:)

are all in the mafia and or Italian! Seriously people, lots of us are not even Italian! And the Sopranos was just a drama, not reality TV!

talk fast and funny! Fast, I can give you, why the hell waste time, the days aren't long enough as it is! It goes back to just cut-to-the-chase, say what you need to and move on! As for the funny part, it is not my fault that you don't see the d in WADER, as in I would like a glass of ice wader:) OK, so maybe you have a point on the talking thing- but surely the hand moving while we talk is exaggerated;-)


Maybe I didn't do such a good job dispelling the stereotypes:) But I swear we do have BIG Hearts(and can NEVER say NO) you just need ask...quickly and listen very carefully for the answer so that you understand it:) And whatever you do, please don't go digging through our backyards(or stadium end zones:) you might not like what you find!

Worst of all, I never hear about how funny we are:)

What a Life

Sometimes I get so caught-up in the daily grind that I forget how good life really is. We have had a terrific few days and lots of exciting this on the horizon. I just love Spring! It is the start of my "busy" season with the kids and traveling, but it also the end of my winter-blues! The monsters and I spent Friday entertaining friends, Saturday we had a "Family Fun Day" out to the Shenandoah National Park and the Tokyo Inn and today we attended the Easter Egg Hunt in our community! And it was a perfect day to hunt for eggs! The kids had friends from school to play with and the park was dry and ready for kids! Life has been good! It is amazing how much happier I am when the sun is shining!

Next week is busy too. Ben and I decided not to head to Jersey for Easter, but instead of staying home, he planned an overnight getaway for us! We are excited, the trip includes giraffes we can feed and an indoor swimming pool! I just hope the Easter Bunny finds us:)

After that we tickets to Opening Day for the Washington Nationals, where we will watch President Obama throw-out the first pitch! And the my brother and his gang come to visit.

Life is busy, but oh so fun this time of year. And trips to the beach are just around the corner:)

A Week Of Recovery

It's been a week and for the most part it has not been awful:) I am getting better and just about ready to resume my daily chores. I will be both happy and sad to see my mother leave tomorrow, God knows I could not have recovered the past week without her. She has stepped in and done all my "jobs" plus others I had been putting off. And when my in-laws were in town last weekend, they got all of my laundry done so I am all caught up, if only I keep up with it:)

I had the week off from school(both mine and the kids:)and only had soccer to deal with during my recovery. I have had wonderful support from friends and family and I will never be able to thank everyone, but I will keep trying. I am looking forward to get back to life next week, I am starting to miss it.

I also celebrated a birthday yesterday, 34! Ben says that I am officially in my mid-thirties now and getting old!!! What a nice husband:) To celebrate, Ben, my mom and I went to dinner. It was nice to get out without the kids even though we were all pretty tired.

Soome Good!

There was Good News to be had today! That means that some of the stress has been lifted. All that is left now is getting through surgery! What I am most concerned about is that awful feeling I get after anesthesia. All sick to my stomach and dizzy! I hate that! I almost wish they would just numb the area and leave me awake:)

I am glad it is an out patient procedure and that my mother arrives on Saturday! My in-laws come in tomorrow night and will be here to watch the monsters Friday while I am under the knife!

I am using this surgery as an excuse to buy a few new nightgowns and a pair of sleepers:) So at least there is a positive in there.

What a Couple of Weeks!

Surgery day has almost arrived, thank God! I on down to only 4 more sleepless, stress-filled nights! Hopefully I will have some good pain pills afterward that will buy me 1 or 2 good nights:)

My in-laws arrive on Thursday to help with the kids while I am in surgery and then my mom gets here on Saturday to help for a whole week! I cannot wait, soon I will have a clean house:) So, if you ever wanted to stop by my house, do it within two weeks of my mom leaving, after that I give up on the cleaning:)

I've had so other "stuff" going on too the past couple of weeks and I has been tough on me. It was "perfect storm" and boy it isn't working for me! Maybe after surgery and my big birthday next week- I will get moving in the right direction!!!